Friends, it is the time of year where people make resolutions and some have already broken them. My birthday is later this month which is another time for reflection on the past year. Did I accomplish what I wanted to? Did I make myself a better person? Am I where I want to be in life?
The short answer, dear readers, is no. I didn’t lose weight, I didn’t keep up with workouts, I didn’t practice piano or do very many craft projects. I set these goals every year and never seem to make progress on any of them. At work, I felt like I was just surviving, not actually moving in any direction. I was just getting through week by week.
I’ve seen some people give a theme to the year instead of making resolutions that are broken almost immediately. I really like this idea, as resolutions obviously haven’t been working for me. So, inspired by a friend on Facebook, I’m making 2018 my “Year of Self-Care”.
I want to feel like I’m doing more than just surviving week to week. I don’t want to beat myself up for failing some expectation in my head of how I should be. I want to celebrate that today I did something like eat vegetables at every meal or stretch before bed and not be disappointed that I can’t do that every day. Those may seem like tiny things but when there’s a voice in your head expecting perfection, it’s hard to say back to it “No, I wasn’t perfect today. But I did these things that were good for me and if that’s all I did today, that’s ok.”
I want 2018 to be focused on habits more than goals, and I’m hoping the best way to start is by being kinder to myself.